How do you know when you and your partner would be better off together or apart? I saw the movie "The Invite" this weekend, a film about a couple whose relationship is in its death throes. They are constantly fighting, can barely stand each other, leaving you wondering why they're still together. It got me thinking about how long-married couples who once loved each other and had a fun, fulfilling life get to this point. And how they find themselves asking: is this relationshi

Photo by Andrew Southam "You want them to help you but you also want to feel like you matter. You seldom want them to just take over. I'm 100 and still have all my marbles and I still want to be considered when decisions are being made..." For Father's Day I thought I'd ask my father what it felt like to be a father at 100 years old. His first reply was "It's like herding cats!" When asked what he meant by that he then surprised me by describing the same feelings my husband a

My parents grew up in the Depression. Both were frugal, but in completely different ways. My mother would have me convinced we were one missed paycheck from poverty. My father, in almost the same breath, would ask if I'd like to have a horse. We were not poverty-stricken. I never got the horse. But growing up caught between those two realities meant that money wasn't just money in our house — it was anxiety and possibility living side by side, never quite resolving. We don't