Tracy Sondern Therapy
LMFT
In-Person in Los Feliz & Larchmont Village in Los Angeles
Online Throughout California
Tracy Sondern, LMFT
You know you love your partner,
but right now you're not sure you like them.
Couples therapy for midlife transitions
when who you were doesn't quite fit who you're becoming.
20 minutes · No commitment · Confidential
You love each other. So why is it so hard?
You're Exhausted.
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​You feel like you're doing everything and none of it is noticed. Somewhere between work and kids and the ten thousand small things that keep a life running, you lost each other. Not dramatically — just gradually, quietly, until you looked up one day and realized the person across from you felt like a stranger.
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You've had the same conversation so many times.
And nothing has changed. You circle the same arguments, the same silences, the same moment where one of you shuts down and the other pulls away. It's not that you don't want things to be different. It's that you've run out of ways
to try.
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Everything is shifting at once.
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Your bodies, your roles, your sense of self. Menopause, empty nest, aging parents, a career that no longer fits — midlife asks a lot of a relationship. Especially one that was already carrying something. You're both changing. Just not always at the same speed.
When you feel safe enough to slow down and really talk — something interesting happens.The defensiveness starts to soften. The arguments that felt urgent begin to lose their charge. Two people who walked in feeling like opponents slowly remember they're actually on the same team.
That shift doesn't happen all at once. But it happens.
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Using the Gottman Method for Couples, we work on what's actually underneath the conflict — the unmet needs, the old patterns, the fears neither of you has said out loud yet. The goal isn't a perfect relationship. It's an honest one, where you both feel seen.
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My goal is simple: I want you to leave with enough understanding of each other, and enough tools, that you don't need me anymore. I'll know I've done my job when you do.
I help couples find their way back to each other — not to who they were, but to who they are now.
Individual Therapy
For creatives, women over 50, and anyone navigating identity, aging, and what comes next. [Learn more →]
Group Therapy
Women Talking — A support group for women over 50, who are feeling invisible, navigating menopause, identity, empty nest, and what comes next. The group runs periodically — join the waitlist to be notified when the next one opens. [Join the waitlist →]
EMDR Therapy
For individuals carrying something older and heavier that talk therapy alone hasn't shifted. [Learn more →]
